OP, I share your surprise. I'm a guy, fwiw.
There are a lot of hot stories here.....but also some bullshit.
I do get horny and "just want a nut" too sometimes...but I have feelings. I prefer to be intimate with someone I trust and who I feel likes me, the person. I don't have sex with whoever. And I don't welcome the notion of someone using me.
Who came up with this BS idea that sex for women is all about feelings and promises, etc....but men don't give a fuck? SURE they do. We get our hopes up and hearts broken. We get jealous and possessive.
(I just watched The Talented Mr Ripley last night....)
As for you proud homewreckers out there, did you ever see the heartbreak in your mother's eyes when she knew your father cheated? Do you understand how much these married dudes are screwing up their spouse's lives and their children? Infidelity wrecks so many lives. Let's stop pretending it doesn't "just because we're gay and that means we have to play by our own rules". Come on.
Hot sex is hot sex, sure....and I get that after 30, the number of potential m/m hookup partners goes waaay down because so many guys marry off...
...but why encourage a culture of guys being deceitful? Why pretend its not about you? Would you buy obviously stolen goods?
And is a guy who treats you like a whore and has no resoect for you or his wife suxh a terrific catch?? He's likely a narcissistic gaslighter. "No honey - I TOLD you I just went out to get gas! Stop being paranoid!"
You think it's hot to screw on soneone else's bed with pictures of their kids on the nightstand....? That's fucking creepy as hell to me. You enjoy hurting people? Its hot to think someone might flip out if they knew what you were doing with their husband?
And yes, some wives will come after you big-time. Or the kids will come after you. Or the husband, once his cheating is revealed, will get crazy guilty/religious/homophobic and want to destroy you for being the "temptation" or whatever. Do you not watch crime shows?
But sure, sure...let's just chalk this all up to the misogynistic ideas that "sex isn't so complicated between dudes" and "women are frigid". These guys who think that because their wife "doesn't put out anymore" they're entitled to cheat. Here's a thought - maybe you treat your wife like crap, dude. Maybe you put zero effort into sex or communication.
Luckily for you, Mr Deadbeat....there are thousands of gay dudes out there desperate for your load, just because you wear a wedding band!
A few months ago, I was chatting with a guy who seemed really cool and was married...and I thought we could meet up. He wanted to. And I told myself the same shit I read here all the time - "it's not my marriage, so I don't have to protect it" / "I'm horny and this could be hot, who cares about the rest" - but my gut knew the truth. Especially once he told me how the wife had just given birth and they had several kids. She carried his babies, FFS, and delivered them because HE COMMITTED TO HER. She trusts him.
...but because I want a hot nut, let's both sneak around her back and lie to her....so she can figure it out and become depressed/angry/suidical/etc. That's real nice.
I tried not to think about the lies he would tell just to hook up with me. How he might have to explain the smell of my cum on his breath or why he missed dinner, whatever.
Married people are not blind. They're constantly paranoid about missing the signs. I knew I didn't want to play games and feed into someone's worst fear. I'd like to think I could find better. So I called it off and jerked off instead.
Marriage is weird, monogamy isn't for most guys and I'm sure messing around with married horndogs CAN be hot....but once you've seen someone get cheated on, and stay in that marriage out of principal but feel worthless and unloved....its hard or impossible to justify getting with married dudes.
Maybe I'm the fool, though, for not taking everything offered.
Find a sane, single person. They're out there.
